Wednesday, June 30, 2010

Completing Him...


Go check out this new challenge I found - Completing Him Challenge. A women named Courtney is doing this challenge -  to be the wife your husband needs. I am a little behind on this challenge as it started on June 7th - but better late than never I say! She will be giving a weekly principle from scripture along with a challenge to apply in your marriage.

So far I have missed ~
June 7 - announce to your readers you are participating by posting the button on your site and leaving your link below. DONE!

June 14 – Post Pictures from your dating days (or tell us all about it!). Think about one thing you used to do or have as a couple that you have lost in the shuffle of life. How can you regain it? Will need to locate some of those old pics...

June 21 - Remember Your Vows - post pictures of your wedding day. We will review the sacredness of this day. Searching for Video Tape of Wedding...

June 28 - Ask your husband every morning how you can pray for him that day. Bonus: Fast and pray for him one day this week. Starting this TODAY!

I will work on back tracking and doing the weeks I missed so stay tuned...

Wow - I just realized my blog lately has been mainly about my hubby. I hope he enjoys it

Tuesday, June 29, 2010

I actually want to buy a music C.D.!

!Shock! I acutually want to spend money on some music C.D's! I never want to waste spend $$ on these things. But want til you hear this -



Where have I been? I have missed five C.D's so far and they are coming out with a 6th one soon!

Attn: GrandmaPoppy - these are on our wish lists!!

Sunday, June 20, 2010

Happy Father's Day ♥


My Daddy - My Hero! I love you so much and I am so proud to call you my dad.
Hope you have a Great day today ♥

And to my hubby -


I'm glad I get to share this journey of parenthood with you ♥

Day Thrity!


"This is my beloved, and this is my friend . . ." Song of Solomon 5:16b

Friends can be completely honest with each other, but friendships are strained when truth is not spoken in love. How are you speaking to your beloved? Are you so "used" to him that you don't appreciate the wonder of his friendship? That is your challenge today.

Is your sweetheart your best friend? Does he know this? Have you told him, or do you assume he "just knows"?

Friendship is something that is cultivated through the good times and the bad. Friends can share their hearts, but they don't step on each other's hearts.

The way to have and be a good friend is to cultivate and celebrate the relationship. As you end this "30-Day Encouragement Challenge," celebrate your friendship with your husband. Get alone and reflect on your beloved friend. Write him a letter, listing the qualities you admire and appreciate about him. If you are creative with words, write and frame a poem about him.

Perhaps you can prepare a special meal, just for the two of you, and read the letter or poem to him. Ask if you can pray for him, and if he is willing, thank God for your love and friendship, asking for His blessing on your home.

Encouragement, as you have seen these past 30 days, is a synonym for love in action. By Nancy Leigh DeMoss


WOO HOO this is the last day! We made it girls! And what a perfect day to end it on! Treat him special today - whether you have children or not. Today is a day to celebrate all the men in our lives and how they influence us. Let them know!

I have had a blast doing this with you and with my hubby Let me know if this has been a blessing or if you would have rather skipped it.

I just love comments - so please let me know!

Saturday, June 19, 2010

Day Twenty Nine - 30 Day Husband Challenge


"A prudent man foresees evil, and hides himself; the simple pass on, and are punished." Proverbs 27:12

As you near the end of this challenge, take time to think about your husband's responses to the wickedness of the culture, the media, etc. Does your husband recognize and avoid evil? Does he regularly turn his back on pornography, sexual temptations, and the urge to lie and cheat?

This is a valuable character trait. Like Joseph in the Old Testament, who fled from the wicked advances of Potiphar's wife, this takes an understanding that these kinds of sins are first and foremost, sins against God - Genesis 39:9.

Praise your husband when he recognizes and turns his back on wickedness. If you can think of a circumstance where your husband stood for righteousness, remind him of that today--and express your gratitude. By Nancy Leigh DeMoss

Thank goodness this is one area I do not have to worry about with my hubby. Thank you Jesus for my Godly husband who is willing to praise you!

Friday, June 18, 2010

Day Twenty Eight - 30 Day Husband Challenge

"The fear of the LORD is the instruction of wisdom, and before honor is humility." (Proverbs 15:33)

Sometimes, when we just "know" we are right and our husbands are wrong, it takes great humility to honor them. It is difficult to speak well of our husbands when our own hearts are puffed up with pride.

As part of your challenge today, pray that you will respond to the Lord in faith and humility before you react to your husband. Speak wisely and well, and leave the results to God.

The humility that comes from a right relationship with God--the humility that comes when a man is willing to listen to God and be taught from His Word--is indeed a beautiful quality. Jesus was an example of this kind of humility when he was willing to submit to His Father's will (John 6:38; Matthew 26:39).

Does your husband have that kind of humility? Is he willing to learn from and submit to direction from the Lord? Let your husband know how precious this is to your marriage relationship.By Nancy Leigh DeMoss

Thursday, June 17, 2010

Day Twenty Seven - 30 Day Husband Challenge

"Be of good courage, and He shall strengthen your heart, all you who hope in the LORD." Psalm 31:24

You have almost completed the "30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge." Perhaps it has taken you a tremendous amount of courage to speak words of ecouragement consistently to your husband. Courage comes as we place our trust in God. Have faith that God will continue to work long after your encouraging words have been shared.

There are lots of "tough guys" in the world, but true courage comes from the Lord. Does your husband exhibit the courage to take an unpopular stand, perhaps even to stand alone against evil? Is he courageous in his faith? Does he work hard to change injustice? Is he a stickler for the truth? Does he protect you or your family from the attacks of the Enemy?

Psalm 27:14 says this kind of courage comes from "waiting" on the Lord for His strength. If your budget allows, "award" your husband with a medal, trophy, framed picture of a brave knight, or some other token that represents his courage as a man of God. Praise evidences of your husband's courage in protecting you, your marriage, your family, or your home.By Nancy Leigh DeMoss

Wednesday, June 16, 2010

Day Twenty Six - 30 Day Husband Challenge

"And Jesus increased in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and men." Luke 2:52

If you have faithfully encouraged your husband, you will no doubt have seen some changes in his life . . . and your own life, as well. Encouragement is a wonderful habit that we hope you will continue for the rest of your life.

The important thing is to keep growing in Christ and obeying the Word of God as you respond to your husband. As you consider today how to bless your husband and not tear him down, think of ways that you can encourage balance in your home.

Jesus led a balanced life. He grew mentally, physically, spiritually, and socially. As you see your husband branching out in these areas, is there a pattern of growth? Is your husband striving for balance in his life? If so, let him know you have noticed, and ask how you can further encourage that balance.

If your husband is out of balance--focusing on one area to the exclusion of the others, consider whether there are things you can do to help restore or create balance in his life. Can you encourage times for sports or exercise? Keep the children quiet for a study time? Invite friends over for dinner? Stimulate his mind?

Be sure you are working toward balance in your own life, as well. Be an example!By Nancy Leigh DeMoss

We are almost done with this 30 day challenge! How are you doing so far? I am having some good days and some not so good days
But I am still trying! That is the most important thing! I have been trying to  lose about 10 pounds tone up and have been watching what I eat and even EXERCISING! I know - shocking isn't it! Today I even got up about 15 minutes early to go and ride my bicycle! It was hard going up some of the mountains hills in my neighborhood but I made it! And I am feeling so much better now. When I was leaving hubby got my bike out of the garage for me He is being so sweet lately Thank you God!

Hope you have a great day!

Tuesday, June 15, 2010

Day Twenty Five - 30 Day Husband Challenge

"Seek peace, and pursue it." Psalm 34:14b

"You will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on You, because he trusts in You." Isaiah 26:3

Before you consider whether these verses describe your husband, consider your own presence in the home. Do you promote an atmosphere of peace, or do critical words often flow from your mouth? Do you struggle with anger? If so, before you continue with this challenge, confess these sinful habits to the Lord, and determine to speak words of peace to your family today.

Does your husband bring an atmosphere of peace into your home? Is his presence a calming influence? Does he bring music, entertainment, books, or people into your home that build a sense of serenity? Let him know how much you appreciate this wonderful quality, and support his choices.

If, on the other hand, he is quickly angered or he creates chaos rather than calm, ask God to give you an abundance of the kind of peace that will speak to his heart. Be patient and loving. Create an inviting atmosphere of peace, as much as possible.
By Nancy Leigh DeMoss

Monday, June 14, 2010

Day Twenty Four - 30 Day Husband Challenge

"And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord." (Ephesians 6:4)


Children can be quite a challenge to the marriage relationship. A wise wife will support her husband's leadership in the home as much as possible, and will praise him for his fathering skills. Negativity makes a man feel like a failure, and may make him to want to give up.


Does your husband discipline your children wisely? Does he show them love and encourage them? Does he take an interest in their activities and dreams? Does he spend time with them? Does he take part in developing their character? Praise him for these important life skills.


If you don't have children, is your husband positive and encouraging around other people's children? Let him know that you have noticed.


If your husband does not experience positive relationships with children, you will need to figure out why. Perhaps he had negative experiences as a child with his own parents, and needs to learn how to respond. Perhaps you can lovingly and patiently show him how to parent--while still maintaining his authority in the home. By Nancy Leigh DeMoss

Sunday, June 13, 2010

Day Twenty Three - 30 Day Husband Challenge


"Let your speech always be with grace." Colossians 4:6a

You're moving toward the home stretch of your 30-day challenge! Just a reminder of what you've committed:

You can't say anything negative about your husband . . . to him or to anyone else. Each day, say something that you admire or appreciate about your husband . . . to him and to someone else.

"In all things showing yourself to be a pattern of good works." Titus 2:7a

Does the "30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge" seem like hard work? Or is it becoming a pleasant exercise in genuine Christ-likeness in your home? You are only scratching the surface of ways to encourage your mate.

Is your husband organized? Is he diligent? Is he persistent? These are all related to a pattern of personal disciplines that are worthy of your praise. Affirm him for one or more of these traits that you see in him.

Some men have not developed these qualities because they are naturally more spontaneous. You can praise his spontaneity! Perhaps God has called you alongside to help him with disciplines he has not yet developed--but this does not include nagging.

Whatever the need, you can be your husband's cheerleader, encouraging him when he wants to give up.
By Nancy Leigh DeMoss

Saturday, June 12, 2010

Day Twenty Two - 30 Day Husband Challenge


"But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you." Matthew 6:33

If we are living in light of eternity, everything we think, do, or say is seen from an eternal perspective. We will someday give an account for our failure to speak words of love and encouragement. Determine today that your words will be sweet and helpful.

Does your husband have an eternal perspective that allows him to reject materialism and temporal values? Express your gratefulness for his value system, and praise him for putting eternal things before riches and other things of this world.

If this is a problem area for him, consider how you might alter your own value system and live for eternity in front of him, encouraging him to do the same. Only two things will last into eternity: the Word of God and people. Be sure that you are focusing on the right things. By Nancy Leigh DeMoss

Friday, June 11, 2010

Day Twenty One - 30 Day Husband Challenge


"Be kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God in Christ also forgave you." Ephesians 4:32

It's time for some heart examination. As you continue in this 30-day challenge, have you found any roots of bitterness that are contaminating your relationship with your husband? Do you understand that as long as you are unwilling to forgive your husband (by God's grace and in His power) you will not be able to encourage him? Your own resentment will keep getting in the way. Now is the time to deal with any unforgiving attitudes. Forgive him, even as God has forgiven you.

Is your husband a forgiving man? Does he keep short accounts of your problems? Express your thankfulness for such a man.

Does your husband--rightly or wrongly--harbor grudges against you? Again, are there things you need to change, or do you need to ask for his forgiveness for an offense? Help your husband be more forgiving by quickly forgiving him for his mistakes. By Nancy Leigh DeMoss

Lord please forgive me of any offense I have done and show me if I am still offending my husband. Help me to change.

Thursday, June 10, 2010

Day Twenty - 30 Day Husband Challenge



Read this wife's description of her beloved in Song of Solomon 5:10-16.

Criticism leaves scar; encouragement can bring healing. Remember that today as you focus on your "30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge."

Almost nothing is as devastating to a man as the belief that his wife finds him repulsive. Sadly, many women unwisely criticize their husbands' bodies.

Have you ever considered how wonderfully God designed men and women? No matter how a man looks by the standards of the world, a loving God designed them all, and they are all "beautiful" in His sight. Encourage your husband today by praising his uniqueness.

As you look over your husband's body, from the tip of his toes to his bald or bushy head, thank God that your husband is "wonderfully made," then admire your husband verbally. (Strong arms? Hairy chest? Firm hands? Big feet? Rugged chin? Wide shoulders? Compassionate eyes? Broad smile?) By Nancy Leigh DeMoss

Wednesday, June 9, 2010

Day Nineteen - 30 Day Husband Challenge


"You will show me the path of life. In your presence is fullness of joy. Happy are the people whose God is the LORD!" Psalm 16:11a; 144:15b

"A merry heart does good, like medicine." Proverbs 17:22a

It's hard to criticize others when we are enjoying their company. Instead of speaking negatively to your husband today, enjoy him! Encourage him! As you experience fullness of joy with God, share some of that joy with your husband.

Does your husband have a playful side? A great sense of humor? Is there a "little boy" that wants to escape from time to time, reflecting the joy in his heart?

This is a wonderful part of who he is, and a great strength. Let him know that you appreciate his joyfulness and his playful spirit. Find opportunities to join him in positive play times.

If your husband can sometimes be overly serious, coax him out occasionally for some play times. It will help him relieve stress and relax. By Nancy Leigh DeMoss

Tuesday, June 8, 2010

Day Eighteen - 30 Day Husband Challenge


"The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom, and the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding." Proverbs 9:10

Are you a wise woman? Do you open your mouth with wisdom, as Proverbs 31:26 suggests? As you continue in your 30-day challenge, remember that a wise woman encourages her husband.

Is your husband a "wise man?" Does he have a godly perspective that comes from knowing God and walking with Him in obedience? Does he have a sense of purpose for his life and vision for your home? Tell him how much this means to you.

If you are not sure about your husband's vision for your home, ask him, "Honey, what do you want to accomplish with our marriage and home in the years to come?" and "How can I help you accomplish that?"

If he does not have a vision, your questions may inspire him to develop one.

If your husband is not walking with God--or perhaps, does not know the Lord--you have the opportunity and responsibility to practice your faith and create a thirst for God. Thank God for giving your husband a place in his heart that only He can fill, and keep praying that he will turn to the Lord to fill that vacuum! By Nancy Leigh DeMoss

Monday, June 7, 2010

Day Seventeen - 30 Day Husband Challenge


"And the LORD God said, 'It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him." Genesis 2:18

God says that it is not good for man to be alone. But the way some women criticize their mates, their husbands may long for solitude. Be careful today not to criticize your mate, but look for ways to encourage him personally and publicly.

Speaking of communication, does your husband communicate with you? God has made you a companion and helper for your husband, and part of being "one flesh" with him is the privilege of sharing and discussing personal needs and concerns. Thank God for that wonderful gift. Thank your husband for communicating with you.

If your spouse does not communicate as you wish, look for ways that he communicates that are normal for him--smiling at you, nodding his head, even a pleasant "grunt!"--and then thank him for letting you know that he cares. Perhaps he needs to be lovingly taught how to communicate. Be patient with him . . . and listen when he does speak. By Nancy Leigh DeMoss

A great book to read more on being a good Helper or Help Meet is - "Created To Be His Help Meet" by Debi Pearl. I highly recommend it It really helped me

Sunday, June 6, 2010

Day Sixteen - 30 Day Husband Challenge


"Grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ." 2 Peter 3:18a

Sometimes we live so close to our spouse that we fail to see him as others do; we only see our husband's faults.

Take a step back. Perhaps he is growing spiritually in ways you have failed to appreciate. How can you encourage his growth in a fresh, new way? Remember--your husband is accountable to God for his spiritual development. You are accountable to God to encourage and not hinder that growth.

Can you identify an area of spiritual strength in your husband? Does he pray or read his Bible regularly? Does he like to read about or discuss spiritual matters? Does he go to church with you? Is he a spiritual leader? What do others say about him? If you can identify a specific area, praise him for that.

If not, pray earnestly that God will work in his heart, and watch for signs of spiritual growth in the future.
By Nancy Leigh DeMoss

Saturday, June 5, 2010

Day Fifteen - 30 Day Husband Challenge



"Let your speech always be with grace." Colossians 4:6a

Focus today on how you represent your husband in your home, your church, and your community. In this challenge to encourage, ask: "If everything my family and friends knew about my husband came from a filter of what I've said about him, what would they think of my husband?" Do you need to change the filter?

Do you speak positively about your husband to others, or do you complain and criticize? Your speech should reflect 1 Corinthians 13 love. Your words should be kind, and should never "rejoice in iniquity" (v. 6). Refrain from listing your husband's faults to others. Satan likes to trick us in this area; be wary of sharing barbed "prayer requests."

Remember, "Love will cover a multitude of sins" 1 Peter 4:8b. Present your husband before others today in a strong, positive manner. Slip in a "good word" for your spouse. Resist the urge to correct or belittle him in front of others. Some of what you say may come back to him, and you want your words to be sweet, building him up and never tearing him down.

Don't forget: you are always criticizing--or encouraging--before an audience. God hears your conversations when you are alone with your husband in your own home. May your speech be always seasoned with grace.

While you are considering how your speech can reflect the grace of the Lord in your husband's life, don't forget that your words can also encourage others. When you share what God is doing in your life through this "30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge", others will be blessed. Perhaps other wives will be moved to take up this challenge. By Nancy Leigh DeMoss

Friday, June 4, 2010

Day Fourteen - 30 Day Husband Challenge

"The righteous man walks in his integrity." Proverbs 20:7a

Every week there are news reports about men who gave in to temptations and compromised what they said they believed. We hear countless reports about dishonest business dealings, hidden infidelity, and hypocritical leaders.
It's so easy to focus on these things and ignore those who are being honest, faithful, and genuine. As you continue in the "30-Day Husband Encouragement Challenge", determine to look for ways that your husband
stands against the culture.

Is your spouse a man of integrity? Is he fair in his dealings with people? Does he understand the meaning of justice? Is he honest in business? Unhypocritical in his faith? Consider all the ways a man can live in integrity, and praise your husband for one of them.

As you have the opportunity--as it is appropriate--share examples of your husband's honesty and integrity with others. By Nancy Leigh DeMoss

Thursday, June 3, 2010

Day Thirteen - 30 Day Husband Challenge

"I am my beloved's, and his desire is toward me." Song of Solomon 7:10


The sexual relationship. It's one of those elements--along with money and
children--that can derail a marriage through negative comments. Negativity
destroys intimacy, but encouragement builds and strengthens the marriage
bond.


Let's get practical here. Is your husband a "good lover?" Have you told him
so? Be specific. Let him know when he pleases you. Most husbands genuinely
want to please their wives, especially in this important area of marriage.


In moments of intimacy, do you find your mind wandering? This can change as
you focus on something wonderful about your husband. Realize that your
husband wants intimacy with you. His desire is toward you.


Does this area of your marriage need some work? Remember that this is a
sensitive area for men. Be sure to encourage his lovemaking and masculinity
in positive ways.By Nancy Leigh DeMoss

Wednesday, June 2, 2010

Day Twelve - 30 Day Husband Challenge


"With all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love." Ephesians 4:2

Part of the difficulty you may face as you continue in this 30-day challenge is that you really are struggling to find positive things to praise your husband for. Perhaps the problem is not with your husband. Have you checked your own heart?

Sometimes we get disillusioned because of our own unreasonable or unrealistic expectations (Proverbs 13:12). It may not be that our mates are doing something wrong; it's simply that we expect too much in some areas.

Our expectations must be met in God alone, and then we will have the right perspective to ask God for the healing and grace we need to respond to others.

How sad that we give more grace to others than to those in our own homes. Today, try to look at your husband through eyes of grace. Verbally thank your husband for what he is already doing. By Nancy Leigh DeMoss

Tuesday, June 1, 2010

Day Eleven - 30-Day Husband Challenge


Day Eleven -  "Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord." Eph. 5:22

Women who are constantly negative toward their husbands - especially by speaking evil of them to others - show great disrespect. Determine not to do that today (or ever!).

This challenge to encourage is closely connected to submission.Men respond to women who respect them. What do you respect about your husband? Part of that respect includes submission to his authority. Let your husband know how respecting him makes it easier to submit to his leadership. Show your respect in public by listening to him and smiling at him when he speaks. Place your hand in his as you walk together.

If you feel there is nothing to respect, search harder ...nearly every man has some core characteristic that can be nurtured and respected. In any case, you must still cultivate a submissive spirit to his position of leadership..."as to the Lord." By Nancy Leigh DeMoss

I am slowly learning this concept. If you know me very well you know I don't put up with anything and I usually tell it to you what I think - no holding back. This sometimes gets me in trouble with others - especially my hubby ♥  Thru the wonder women bible study I learned that God likes you to hold your tongue and respect your spouse. It pleases HIM. so if nothing else do it to please God and you will be blessed. It may be hard at first, but trust me it gets easier

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